Believing a religion is often a positive influence in someone's life.  It brings people peace, a guideline to follow in life and spiritual growth.  So when a family member is devoted to ANY religion (in my case, my family has two different ones), it should be supported.  My 3 sisters are all devoted Christian, and my parents are Buddhist.  As for me, most of you know, I am a Buddhist as well. 

 

It is totally NOT a matter of WHICH religion is better or which religion I support better.  When I really need my family to be there for me, I will not feel less disappointed if it's my parents who can't be there for "religious reasons".  I feel the same, as disappointed as I can be.  When my family shared their joys with me in regards to their religious activities and growth, I feel the same, as happy as I can be for them regardless if it's my sisters or my parents. 

 

Sometimes I can't help but wonder... are they put in a position where they have to choose between the family and the religion?  If they are, is there something wrong with the nature of the religious practice?  I thought most religions would say "family should come first always"? 

 

I remember when I was hospitalized, and I really needed someone there because my husband seriously needed a break from the hospital to sleep.  I called my family for support but mommy first turned it down because she has a class to go.  At that moment, I honestly had doubt toward what does it really mean for someone to practice and believe in a religion.  I was disappointed.  I was a little hurt.  (note:  she showed up later because I told her that in this case, I might need her more than the people in the class, and my father was on my side)

 

I remember there were many incidents where I invite or ask my family members to be there for whatever reasons; church is somewhat always the reason why they can't make it.  It's almost like being in church is more important than spending time with grandparents who we don't see on regular basis... which means... loved ones we will not see again probably until their funeral.  (note:  it is just an extreme cases, most of the time, it is nothing big like spending time with grandparents)

 

I hate pessimistic blogs... so I will not write one.  I have to say, most of the time, my family has been very very supportive with everything... and they all treat my new family nicely especially my little Scottie.  He is very lucky to have 3 aunties who love him dearly and would be there for him no matter what.  I still want to end the blog on a positive note though... the point is that I think regardless of the religion, I don't think people should never be put in the position where they have to choose between their family and any type of religious events.... or I can be wrong for not being understanding enough in regards to the need of someone putting religious events on the top of the list... see, here is the thing, I think attending religious events and practicing a religion is TWO totally different things.  Don't you think?   Practicing a religion should not be all about being somewhere at certain specific time.. i should be something someone does at all times with their heart and soul.

  

Will there always be something missing in life for everyone? 

 

I suppose the answer is YES.  There is always going to be something missing or missed in life for everybody. 

 

When I first found out that I am having a boy again, I was honestly a little down.  It would be just perfect to have one of each, but I kind of knew it can't be the case for everybody.  Someone will have all girls and someone will have all boys.  I remember my mom tried 4 times and got all girls, so fate plays its role on what you will have. 

 

I am determined to have 2 boys. 

 

I should really embrace what I have in life instead of what I don't have.  Sometimes it still hits me when I see those pretty outfits for girls in the store, but I guess I can always get it for other little girls as a gift.  I should be glad that Scottie will have a brother to grow up with. 

 

Will there be something missing if I will never have a daughter in my life? 

 

Hopefully not.  I have 3 sisters in life... and that's a blessing.  I get to have all the sons my mom never had.. haha...