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    February 23

    Little ones' greed

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    孩子教育    想要太多,需要不多
     
     帶姪女出門逛街,她看到一對仙女卡通圖案的髮夾非常喜歡。
    看她一直流連不忍離去,我問她:「喜歡嗎?姑姑買給妳。」
    想到三歲的她回我一句:「想要太多,需要不多!」
     聽罷,我「用力」想了一下,「想要太多,需要不多」是啥意思?
    原來,嫂嫂為了教育孩子不要太浪費,遇到小孩想要某些東西時,就會這樣告訴他們。
    正因為「想要太多」,嫂嫂有空就帶兩個孩子到圖書館,
    DVD、玩具、圖書等都是免費借閱的,看過就還,非常符合「需要不多」的本意。
     正在逛街,遇到賣場裡有個孩子在狂吼猛嚎,走近觀察,
    原來是一個年約四、五歲的男孩吵著要買火車軌道玩具,他媽媽不肯,
    當場給了他連環掌這一種公然體罰,惹來其他路過家長的不滿。
    一位中年爸爸抓住那雙舞著連環掌的手,那位媽媽可能是面子掛不住,扯著尖嗓破口大罵。
     阻止他媽媽揮掌的正義之士說,小孩很單純,看到有火車可以玩就玩,
    玩上癮就想要,這種慾望很單純、直接,就像肚子餓了,看到東西就想吃是一樣的。
    果家長不希望小孩受玩具的誘惑,就不要帶孩子們逛百貨公司,而不是讓他受玩具引誘,又嚴厲處罰他。
    擔心揮掌的媽媽越罵越激動,我趕緊拉姪女離開賣場。
    想想,正義之士的玩具誘惑說頗有道理,但是,我更贊同嫂嫂的教育方式,
    畢竟孩子是人,不是低智商的動物,三歲小娃都能說出「想要太多,需要不多」,
    有什麼不能溝通?掌握機會教育,逛街也可以是享受,而非找罪受。
     
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    I got it from my friend Yvonne's Blog.  I thought it is an very interesting article.  So I took it from that blog.
     
    I have heard stories about how friends' kid can go crazy in the toy store as they get older.  I guess wanting new toys is just the same as little kids wanting
    more food to eat? 
     
    Scottie is not at that age yet... but I am afarid soon or later he will learn what he can get and where he can probably get it.  I will sure keep this article in mind and I totally agree that "Teah at the Moment" is certain very very important and effective.
     

    February 18

    Siblings

     

    When I was little, I often wished that I could be the only child in the family.  This way, I didn't have to share all the toys, all the food and my parents' love.  Before my youngest sister arrived (which is 10 years after my birth), mom already had to divide up her attention by 3.  

     

    During my teen years, siblings become my worst enemies in the world.  They annoyed the hell out of you about every single little thing... they can embarrass you at school... insult you in any way.. fight with you... fight with you about TV, phone, food and always take your clothes.. they can be your worst nightmare ever.  I guess I tried too hard to be a good oldest sister with "authorities and my sisters become very rebellious against me.  I think all teens hate it when people tell them not to do, not to mention this somebody is not even their parents. 

     

    As I grow older, I start appreciating the fact of having siblings.  I think everyone gets over the stage where friends are like the savior in his/ her life and friends are people we rely on under any circumstance.  As one gets older, they realize the importance of family, and how family will always be there for you no matter what.  Good or bad.... poor or rich... sickness or health.  Our family learned to stay together tighter after we had been through some rough times together... yet we have been there for each other at all times. 

     

    As a woman, I appreciate my sisters as much as my close friends.  They can be the most honest person to give you opinion.. and they are the ones who you can have fought and not worry about how we can't make it up ever. 

     

    I am grateful to have my sisters.  Now we can talk about anything and go shopping whenever we want.  They are now also the greatest babysitters ever... LOL